Images of me lost in a city alone or even worse getting kidnapped or robbed by the crazy natives. I also often of being billy no mates by the pool with no one to talk to.
Last year after a purchasing my flat (Most stressful thing I have ever done) and getting over a Lupus flair I was sitting in my office stressed and tired and suddenly decided …..”I’m going on holiday!”
I didn’t want to wait for friends to agree to go and then back out or quibble about dates and locations I just wanted to go. By 5.30pm that day I had booked my flight, my accommodation and my airport transfers and it was one of the best things I have ever done. My plan was to have a break to rest, but I had no idea that this single, spontaneous action would have such a therapeutic effect on not only my health but my mental wellbeing. That old saying is true Travel is good for your soul and is something that really allows you to grow on the inside out But why go it alone? Here are a few reasons:
1. You can go at your own pace
Imagine how freeing it would be to go at your pace? Eat when you want sleep when you want go down to the pool when you want if you feel like it stay in bed all day eating room service go site seeing or just sit in the hotel lobby you can do it if you want to without convenience anyone, having to ask permission or compromise with anyone.
Traveling alone affords you to freedom to be random, go out on adventures or go nowhere turn at without having to worry about anyone else. Take all the time in the world to really immerse yourself in the country you have chosen to visit or soak up the rays by the pool (Or even get wasted at the bar) Guess what it’s totally up to you.
2. It Builds confidence
Travelling solo catapults you out of your comfort zone, which will makes you uncomfortable and essentially builds your confidence levels. Take full advantage of the opportunity to build on communication skills and widen your social by approaching and connecting with people you don’t know. I promise it get easier with time just keep telling yourself if you make a fool out of yourself you will never see them again.
3. You become more decisive
It’s now your time to be a shot caller because everything is up to you, you’re forced to make quick decisions when you’re alone because there’s no one else to bounce ideas off of. Places you go out to eat, take a cab, ride the metro, or walk. It’s all on you Decision-making and having faith in your choices is truly a key skill you establish whenever solo and also something that you can take back to your everyday life.
4. It clears your mind
Being away from everyday life temporally frees you mentally from a of those bills, work and family obligations. Being away from it gives you a chance to really explore your thoughts as distraction really resets your mind. It affords you time to reflect on your routines, your goals, and habits. What can you do differently and how can you improve your quality of life? I agree that travelling alone defiantly isn’t for everyone, but I have come up with five reasons why I believe everyone should travel to a foreign destination on their own, at least once.
5. You become truly independent
It’s scary, but at the same time it is a valuable opportunity to be empowered. We are all born a dependent, and that comfort can come from many different people or things usually someone or something else that you allowed yourself to become dependent on. Your boyfriend, your best friend or even that special chair that makes you feel safe. Away from those thing and people you can explore your true independence.
6. Meet new people.
Honestly you’re not going to speak to random person by the pool when you are sitting with your bestie or your boyfriend talking about what is probably going on home or where you should go for dinner. I met so many wonderful people on my holiday a few of which I am still in contact with. When I would go to the dinner hall random people noticed I was by myself and would invite me to sit with them and I always had dinner plans for the evening with someone I met by the pool.
7. Do what you want, on your own time
Spend the morning sitting with your feet in the pool reading a book or checking Instagram because you find it relaxing. Or check out the local markets and shopping areas. Traveling solo means you’re free to do whatever it is that you want. Create an itinerary that suits you. Traveling with others can be extremely stressful at times because everyone a different set expectation about what they want to get out of the holiday.. What if your friend wants to party every night but you had already decided that you were done clubbing? When you travel alone, the only persons good time that you are responsible is your own. You’re allowed to be selfish, and you don’t have to apologize to anyone for it. 8. Find yourself. Find your centre and take the time to discover what it is that truly makes you happy. Soul search ad truly ask yourself “Ami happy where I am and where do I want to go?” you will be surprised what you learn about yourself.